We are the very first ones to criticize ourselves before anyone does. We are very much afraid to be judged and panned by other people. But the reality is this, we are the ones who actually criticized ourselves before anyone does.God created each and every one of us uniquely. For us to be who we are and not to become a copycat of somebody else. So let us stop being our own critic and start accepting who we really are.
I’ve been there, the point of not accepting what I have and who I really am. It was hard pretending day by day that everything is okay but the reality? “Nothing seems right.” But at the end of the day, I have to accept that things will not always work the way I wanted it to be. The best lesson that “Mr. Acceptance” can teach us is to live without certainty yet without being paralyzed by hesitation or fear. Embracing acceptance is one of the hardest things to do. But the moment you clear your heart and accept the reality? That’s the time you will realize that you’re in the happiest chapter of your life. It is a conscious choice, letting-go. You let go of all the negativity and humbly accepts what life may bring in your doorstep. Life has no other discipline to levy and that is to realize and accept things the way it is with no questions asked. The moment we shut our eyes towards the reality, we run away, we deny, denigrate, or despise things, it will only result to defeat in the end. What appears to be painful or evil, can become a source of happiness and strength if faced with an open mind. But if we will grow acrimoniously, inveigh and keep kicking against the current of life, we will just end up making things worst. Let me share to you my own slice of acceptance. I was in Cloud 9 that time, I felt I almost had everything in my life. I have my family and friends who supported me on things that I want to do although we still have disagreements here and then. I cut my way through Events Management which happened to be one of the things that I really wanted to do. But in just one night the event that we have been preparing for months, bungled up and failed. I was really frustrated and dippy that time. Then I lose myself, I was trapped in a situation where I started overlooking on things and forgot what really matters. It was really a hard-hitting time, it was one of the most agonizing part of my life without a doubt. I lost everything. The trust from my family started to dwindle. I lost my best friend and a lot of my friends left me hanging in a fiasco. Above all I lost my purpose in life. I turned my nights into the hills of insomnia. I brought upon myself everything I didn't want to. I keep on pushing myself too hard then I repeatedly resort to failure. Then, I realized that I was just blinded by my failures. I am starting to deteriorate and give up myself. Then an unexpected call from my cousin came, I started to open-up a little and shared my innermost feelings of failure to him. It was quite a long conversation between the two of us and that call turn the tables of despair into a waterfall of hope. He said something to me that I will never forget, “Javi, God has plans let him drive your life and don’t let your problems define you. God will provide the things you need in his own terms and chosen time. Always remember that.” Those words truly change my perspective and after that conversation with my cousin, I prayed really hard while crying my heart out to him. I talked to our Almighty Father and submit myself to him. After talking to him with my emotional-wrecked self, I really felt his presence hugging me and telling me everything's going to be okay. It felt that all the pain and doubts started to cease. I started seeing the bright side of life again. Finally, after months and months of self-torture, I had to accept what I knew from the outset, there are things that I couldn't possibly alter. Once you’ve reached that kind of grounding then you’re moving forward. It is another mode of love in action. The one that releases your negative attachment to people and thrusts you to become a better version of yourself. Acceptance of life’s reality has nothing to do with quitting; it does not mean running away from the struggle either. On the contrary, it means accepting life the way it is. By accepting, I mean to say yes to life in its entire. When you’re in pain, feeling insecure or a little frightened don’t hold yourself too hard. Let it go and express what you really feel. If you’re feeling a little greedy, angry or jealous feel free to lighten up rather than deny your feelings. Never console yourself with a lie because you will only end up hurting yourself at the end of the day. Accepting all the facets of life allows you to be happy and free. The root of all these fears we have is that we consider all those undesirable feelings as a massive part of our lives. But trust me if you will stop over thinking, you will no longer be frightened. The moment you open yourself to the open ocean of possibilities, then you can confidently say that you have learn't the real meaning of “ACCEPTANCE.” Life has no other discipline to levy and that is to realize and accept things the way it is with no questions asked. The moment we shut our eyes towards the reality, we run away, we deny, denigrate, or despise things, it will only result to defeat in the end. What appears to be painful or evil, can become a source of happiness and strength if faced with an open mind. But if we will grow acrimoniously, inveigh and keep kicking against it, we won't change the inevitable. Note to SELF, I am letting go all of my “what if’s.” I will whole-heartedly embrace all of my “what is.” And I will be looking forward to all of my “what will be.” |
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